regarding islands

Apr. 24th, 2026 07:10 pm[personal profile] tozka
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1. I am currently on an island, the Isle of Wight.

2. Today I finished reading We Bought an Island, which I LOVED. It's a memoir of two sisters who bought an island off the Cornwall coast in the 1960s and turned it into (basically) an artists' retreat. This book is focused on them finding the island and moving in, and all the people they meet. It genuinely made me laugh out loud several times, to the point where it's coming home with me because I know I'll want to reread it later. Luckily I have the small pocket-sized paperback version; if I have to I can just put it in my coat pocket.

I desperately want to read the sequel, which talks about their life on the island after moving in, but I may have to resign myself to reading the PDF on Archive.org as the local used bookshop doesn't have a copy. I can always order one on eBay if I want to later, too.

3. While looking for Tales From Our Cornish Island (that's the sequel) at the local used bookshop, I found a different book about living on an island: Herm, Our Island Home, which I of course bought. This one is about a family (6 kids, 2 parents) living on an island 3 miles from Guernsey in the Channel Islands, around the same time period as the sisters on their island, actually.

4. I enjoy reading about people on islands, and I enjoy visiting islands. If I were going to live on an island, I'd prefer a larger one. But then I've never been enamored with small-town life, tbh. I prefer mid-sized places.

5. I re-watched Muppet Treasure Island the other day and then read Robert Louis Stevenson's fascinating Wikipedia page; I'd no idea that he'd written travel memoirs, nor spent the last years of his life writing from and about Samoa (an island nation).

6. Other islands I've been to: the UK (of course), Madeira Island, São Miguel Island, Barbados, Japan, Indonesia, Singapore, Manhattan Island.

7. Private artificial islands creep me out, especially when they're populated by billionaires. Public artificial islands are, I suppose, fine.

8. I just found this Wikipedia list of fictional islands and it's made me think back to how many of my favorite books as a kid were set on islands, or involved islands, most of them only lightly inhabited. They do make for interesting story settings...

9. "Let's all go to Gullah Gullah Island!"

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The Friday Five for 24 April 2026

Apr. 23rd, 2026 01:23 pm[personal profile] anais_pf posting in [community profile] thefridayfive
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These questions were written by [personal profile] nondenomifan.

1. What decade did you attend/are you attending high school or college?

2. What clothing fashion from that time are you glad/do you wish went out of style?

3. Do you still listen to the music from your high school/college years on a regular basis?

4. What hairstyle/hair color did/do you wear during high school/college?

5. What was/is "the cool thing to do" while in high school/college?

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Struggle Session is a bonus column where I respond to comments from readers and listeners. I also share a question submitted to Savage Love and let my readers have the first crack at giving the advice. Wanted to kick things off by highlighting this pearl of wisdom from NoCuteName… There is no such thing as … Read More »

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Search maintenance

Apr. 22nd, 2026 09:19 am[staff profile] mark posting in [site community profile] dw_maintenance
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Happy Wednesday!

I'm taking search offline sometime today to upgrade the server to a new instance type. It should be down for a day or so -- sorry for the inconvenience. If you're curious, the existing search machine is over 10 years old and was starting to accumulate a decade of cruft...!

Also, apparently these older machines cost more than twice what the newer ones cost, on top of being slower. Trying to save a bit of maintenance and cost, and hopefully a Wednesday is okay!

Edited: The other cool thing is that this also means that the search index will be effectively realtime afterwards... no more waiting a few minutes for the indexer to catch new content.

The Reveal

Apr. 21st, 2026 11:00 am[syndicated profile] savagelove_feed

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Are there rules to revealing a cheating ex on social media? Three weeks ago, I confronted my boyfriend about his repeated requests that we “find a time to talk.” These requests were never followed by any actual talk. We’d been together for three years by then. After his third futile attempt (“We still need to … Read More »

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Sometimes the questions we get here at Savage Lovecast Industries™ are nothing but pragmatic. A man with a moldy home asks how he can properly dry his Fleshlight. Seems important. A woman fell off a trapeze 15 years ago and has suffered sexual dysfunction ever since. Dan brings on pelvic floor therapist Dr. Rachel Gelman … Read More »

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Meet Michael who with the help of “Gary” goes through the looking glass into the twilight world of the bisexual male. It all starts out with your typical, wholesome 100-guy jack-off session. And then things take a bit of a turn… Whoever invented Zoom, most likely didn’t predict *this* sort of thing would happen. If … Read More »

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The Friday Five for 17 April 2026

Apr. 16th, 2026 05:46 pm[personal profile] anais_pf posting in [community profile] thefridayfive
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These questions were written by [livejournal.com profile] ideealisme.

1. What did you do on Monday?

2. What did you do on Tuesday?

3. What did you do on Wednesday?

4. What did you do on Thursday?

5. What are you going to do today?

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I’m curious to see where Savage Lovers come down on this one… I am a 25-year-old male going through a disruptive transition period after a secret of mine got out. Here goes: I developed a panty fetish in middle school thanks to the ease with which I could search for pictures of panties and thongs … Read More »

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Outward Bound

Apr. 14th, 2026 11:00 am[syndicated profile] savagelove_feed

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I’m a 26-year-old cis gay boy. I met my 28-year-old boyfriend in an actual bar and not an app — like it was 1978 or something — so we didn’t share our sexual interests before we met. We hooked up that night and things got serious pretty quick. He was the first guy I met … Read More »

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I keep forgetting to post about this: we've been troubleshooting the "missing notifications" problem for the past few days. (Well, I say "we", really I mean Mark and Robby; I'm just the amanuensis.) It's been one of those annoying loops of "find a logical explanation for what could be causing the problem, fix that thing, observe that the problem gets better for some people but doesn't go away completely, go back to step one and start again", sigh.

Mark is hauling out the heavy debugging ordinance to try to find the root cause. Once he's done building all the extra logging tools he needs, he'll comment to this entry. After he does, if you find a comment that should have gone to your inbox and sent an email notification but didn't, leave him a link to the comment that should have sent the notification, as long as the comment itself was made after Mark says he's collecting them. (I'd wait and post this after he gets the debug code in but I need to go to sleep and he's not sure how long it will take!)

We're sorry about the hassle! Irregular/sporadic issues like this are really hard to troubleshoot because it's impossible to know if they're fixed or if they're just not happening while you're looking. With luck, this will give us enough information to figure out the root cause for real this time.

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